David and I on my wedding day, 28 March 2014
The 10 Kakanui stones I sent to David’s family
Some of the first Kakanui stones I tumble polished, left in David’s family holiday home, August 2020
Kakanui’s Seadown Beach, August 2020
David Neilson died on 2 November 2022. He was my best friend when I was working at the University of Waikato. It was his wife Melissa who said of David that he was “a warm-hearted leftie who relentlessly pursued his vision of a better world” (from Richard Swainson’s article on David in The Waikato Times). David and I enjoyed each other’s company. We often had lunch together, discussing a wide range of issues about work and the world. His area of expertise was Political Economy and he especially enjoyed teaching courses in Labour and Trade Union Studies. I taught in Social Science Research. Our Programmes were amalgamated, along with others, in 1999, which was when we first got to know each other well. David was my “best man” when Petra and I got married in 2014. When I retired, I did not see much of David any more, especially after I moved away to Whanganui. Then, at the start of November this year, I got an email from Gemma, a mutual friend and colleague, that David had fallen ill and was not expected to live long. He died from stomach cancer and covid complications the next day. He was 65 years old.
David and I had a lot in common. We both grew up “south of the Waitaki”, David in North Otago and I in Eastern Southland. We both always identified as southerners, despite having travelled and lived elsewhere most of our adult lives. We were both “theorists”, interested in social theory and philosophy, which meant we sometimes had quite esoteric discussions that not a lot of other people would have been interested in. For example, we had both carefully read the writings of Karl Marx – David’s academic and lecturing work were significantly influenced by them, me less so. I was more influenced by various Christian approaches, but I too had put time into reading and understanding Marx. I gave some of my Marx books to David when I retired. An important point needs to be made about the significance of Marxism to David, again drawing on Richard Swainson’s article: David was not the type of academic to settle for words on a page: his philosophy was that the point of knowledge is to change the world. Such passion co-existed with personal warmth and humour. He was defined as much by a wide, oft-seen smile and laughter. His door and his mind were always open to others and their ideas. Also, as friend and colleague Tom Ryan put it, David was “more than a Marxist”, that he “engaged with Marx” but his philosophy was profoundly democratic. “David did not like autocrats of the left or the right.” David and I taught and supervised a number of students in common – I think I was much more structured in my presentation of lecture material than David, but he was much more inspiring and challenging.
Richard Swainson provides an interesting and well-written account of David’s life. For example: David Neilson wrote his PhD thesis under unique circumstances. The year was 1978 and as a student of the University of East Anglia David was, as ever, living his life by his democratic socialist principles. He was a crucial part of a collective which occupied 29 empty houses in Argyle St, Norwich, beginning a squat that was to last six years and involve 120 people. A New Statesman article described him as the “parish priest” of the collective. He wrote the original letter to the Norwich City Council announcing the occupation, which in turn led to negotiations that saw official recognition and permission to continue. The “Argyle Street Alternative Republic” was born.
From Newsletter of Sociological Association of Aotearoa NZ.
From Newsletter of Sociological Association of Aotearoa NZ.
Lori, Petra, John & David, 28 March 2014.
28 March 2014.
Melissa and David with John, 28 March 2014.
But Richard also points to the essential goodness of David’s character: At age 21, hailing from the other side of the world, David had the ability to inspire solidarity. Possessing infinite patience, his calm manner precluded fear or anger. Where others lost tempers, or were reduced to threats or profanity, the Neilson equanimity proved decisive. He would lend anyone his car, though always kept the tank near empty. He was generous but savvy with it.
Over four decades later, David’s colleagues and students at the University of Waikato wrote this about him: As a teacher and supervisor David’s deepest desire was to inspire his students to think, to relish the joy of learning and to embrace the journey. David supported his students on a discovery of knowledge, celebrating as students found their minds opening to the world. As a researcher David’s career was rising to new heights with a range of new collaborations, book offers and publications. In these recent publications, including the book “The struggle to make democratic socialism in the 21st century”, David’s purpose was to carve out new theory and inspire social change... As an academic David engaged with the theoretically complex and left a legacy of work that “hits them between the eyes”. Continually inspired by Marx’s thesis eleven, that the point of knowledge is to change the world, David never gave up hope that capitalism’s ills would be subjugated by conscious human will. In this sense David was a public intellectual committed to activism and often taking on additional service roles in the community. David fundamentally believed that we have the power to change the world, and his legacy and gift to all his students was to inspire them to use knowledge to change the world for the better.
Two people who knew David well, having lived with him, said this of him: A gentle and humble soul who we were honoured to have known. You touched the lives of many people and had a profound effect on ours. One of his students wrote this: David was one of my most supportive and greatest friends. His loss cuts deep, but I am trying to hold onto how lucky I was to have known him and had him as my friend. David was my PhD supervisor, and for that I was immensely privileged. I will miss our lunches and chats. As many others have said, David had an immense intellect coupled with a beautiful and gentle soul. He advocated for so many people. I last saw David just a couple of months ago when we had one of our frequent catch-ups. It is an enduring and precious memory for me now. Neighbours wrote: A beautiful man indeed. David was a gentle and exceptional person and we appreciated the years of friendship, conversation and neighbourhood fun we had with him and the family. A huge loss, too soon and too sad. [These quotes are taken from entries on The Waikato Times online obituary for David.]
David’s family have a holiday home in Kakanui. After I had taken up stone polishing, David had often said to me that I should visit Kakanui as he knew it had an interesting geology. He was also aware of fossils in the beach cliffs there. He encouraged me to check out the Kakanui beaches. At the end of May 2020, I did just that and discovered Kakanui’s Seadown Beach, now one of my top three favourites (see this Post and this Post). I spent a longer period at Kakanui in August that year, visiting all the nearby beaches, David arranging for me to stay at his family’s holiday home.
Looking over the estuary of the Kakanui River, towards the area where David’s family’s holiday home is located.
Petra on Kakanui’s Seadown Beach.
Seal on the beach just north of Kakanui.
Kakanui’s Seadown Beach.
Kakanui’s Seadown Beach, with seaweed.
The stones of Kakanui’s Seadown Beach.
Upon hearing of David’s death, I considered sending flowers to his family. But I decided to send ten polished Kakanui stones instead. These stones come from a place that was important to him, to his family and to me. They are a deeply personal gift, having been discovered personally during many hours of fossicking on the beach and then tumbled for weeks to bring out their beauty.
The 10 Kakanui stones I sent to David’s family
Kakanui quartzite, with tiny clear quartz crystals
Kakanui jasper, with traces of hematite (iron oxide)
Kakanui quartzite
Kakanui quartzite
Kakanui quartzite
Kakanui quartzite
Kakanui quartzite
Kakanui beach stone
Kakanui quartzite
Kakanui beach stone, probably quartzite
Kakanui quartzite, with tiny clear quartz crystals
Other side of stone
Kakanui jasper, with traces of hematite (iron oxide)
Other side of stone
Kakanui quartzite
Other side of stone
Kakanui quartzite
Other side of stone
Kakanui quartzite
Other side of stone
Kakanui quartzite
Other side of stone
Kakanui quartzite
Other side of stone
Kakanui beach stone
Other side of stone
Kakanui quartzite
Other side of stone
Kakanui beach stone, probably quartzite
Other side of stone
I’ve seen fire and I’ve seen rain
I’ve seen sunny days that I thought would never end
I’ve seen lonely times when I could not find a friend
But I always thought that I’d see you again (James Taylor)